If you suspect a friend or family member is in an abusive relationship, talking with them about it can be hard.
The most important thing you can do is to let them know that they have support and options to leave the relationship.
Offer support without judgment or criticism. Listen and give support. Talk about the behaviors, not the person. Avoid ultimatums. Take time to educate yourself on the issues of abuse and options available. Respect their decisions, even when you don’t agree. Do not criticize or make them feel guilty – they need you to be helpful, not hurtful. Here are some easy ways to help start the conversation:
“It’s not your fault he/she treats you that way.”
“I know this is difficult to discuss, but please know you can talk to me about anything.”
“You are not alone. I care about you and I’m here for you, no matter what.
“You are not responsible for his behavior.”
“No matter what you did, you do not deserve this.”